Have you ever noticed that my children’s faces are not on my blog or social media accounts? I like to capture images without revealing their identity.
Before I started my blog I had been following other bloggers for some time. I was reading personal blogs. Blogs that gave you an insight into peoples private family life. I enjoyed their images and loved how many of the photographs capture the spirit of a child.
I love taking photos of my children and they are a significant part of our story. But do my children want their stories online? How do I really know what they want? How will they feel about their photos being online when they are a teenager?
There were a few things that helped me reconfirm my decision of not revealing their identity on the blog.
I was at a festival with my family and there in the crowd, I recognised some children from a blog I followed. While they did not use their real name I felt like I knew this child and their struggles. The fact they were getting picked on at school and all their health issues. I felt like I was intruding on this child’s personal life. I felt uncomfortable.
This story makes me feel a little sick inside as the children’s image was not used as it was intended. This blogger had forgotten to pack a change of clothes for her sons after swimming lessons. They had to walk home in their bathers. She took a quick snap of the boys and posted it on facebook. It was all very innocent and she didn’t think too much of it. That was until the photo got a lot of attention and inappropriate messages. It was quickly deleted however it only takes a moment for someone to save your images and reuse them.
Another blogger had noticed a shift in her child. The daughter wanted to be more independent and craved some freedom. Between them, they had a discussion and decided not to feature her images and personal stories on the blog.
I must admit, sometimes I struggle with this decision as there are some gorgeous photos that I want to share with you all. But until my children are old enough to choose what they want to share online I will not do it for them.